Taking Control - Planning

con·trol  (kn-trl)

tr.v. con·trolled, con·trol·ling, con·trols

1. To exercise authoritative or dominating influence over; direct.

2. To adjust to a requirement; regulate:

3. To hold in restraint; check:

 

The Oxford English Dictionary

(OED) de

free action of; to hold sway over, exercise power or authority over; to dominate,

command

What does it entail to take control over another person? Is it simply a matter of marching up to someone and saying, follow me , do this, I am now your Alpha and Omega and do as you are told?

Would it not be blissful if it were that easy? As I prepare for my slave's return , I have found myself reading the The Control Book by Peter Masters again trying to plan how to take control of my slave and remind him of his place and give him the confidence in me to let go completely.

I am revisiting my motivations for wanting to have control over him and checking that we both are still suited to each other.As within any relationship there needs to be mutual benefit and satisfaction for the power exchange to work.

The planning required to successfully take control of a slave is extensive. How to take control, how to maintain control and how to manage the relationship that it meets both our needs and wants. The mere structure of time spent together, the rules, standing orders etc... take hours of work.

To successfully take control of another there must be clear action alongside the talk. No fear or doubt should exist and motives must be clear. It is not all about pain, although for some receiving pain and being restricted is the quickest way to obtain control.

I will be writing regularly about my process of preparing for slave's visit. Currently I am busy compiling a list of desired outcomes from our 30 days... the most important one being my slaves complete submission to me and making him MINE completely.

fines control (the verb) as: To exercise restraint or direction upon the.

the 1950's household & sex- more from the Stepford Wife handbook!

I just love twin sets and pearls always a classic look. Very Stepford Wife.

Stepford Wife's Guide To Great Sex 

We Stepford ladies have mentioned it here before: good sex and sexual fulfillment the Stepford Way, means we, as wives and women, have relinquished our personal gratification to focus 100% of our efforts on giving our husbands physical pleasure.  Remember, every second you deny from paying attention to your own gratification means another second devoted to giving your husband the pleasure his sex is entitled to.  

Modern. liberated women may call it repressed, but we prefer to see our chastity as a symbol of saving our bodies for our husbands' delight.

In our world, the girls in the organization believe that to give physical pleasure and gratification to our husbands, is - in and of itself - the pinnacle of feminine indulgence and achievement.  We never pursue a sexual climax for ourselves when we pleasure our husbands.  The sheer benefit of being able to give a man physical satisfaction is already a reward of the highest honor.  Our personal sexual fulfilment is not worthy of consideration when compared to a man's physical pleasure.  We feel that attempting to bring ourselves to climax is simply taking away from the focus of pampering our husbands to their climax.  And that's just selfish.

We also believe that when we are alone, and our husbands are not present, we should refrain from any self-gratification.
And we believe this.  No woman can hope to achieve more in life than to give her husband physical attention.  For husbands, to receive feminine attention is natural birthright and male entitlement.

The Stepford secret to great sex is that we repeat this six-word mantra to ourselves, whenever and wherever our husbands decide to initiate their pleasure, whether it be in the bedroom, in the kitchen, in the bathroom, in the laundry room: "I Have No Right." No right to ask for pleasure, no right to refuse, and no right to say "no."   That can only mean one thing: spoiling our husbands sexually by giving them physical attention on demand..

Stepford Wife apporved bedroom attire.

A suggestion on the site is that one should meet one's husband at the door in a full garter ensemble with a martini when he returns home from work. An additional hint is to wear the garter and stockings to bed at times so that he has free access and can help himself in case you may be asleep.

Stepford Male Climax Right - The husband has full control over his wife's access to sexual climax during, before, or after sexual activities together or alone. The wife must ask her husband when she is ready to climax. The husband has the right to refuse, at which point, his wife will acquiesce, and continue the task of bringing him to his peak. This agreement puts the authority of doling out physical gratification solely in the husband's hands, permitting him to regulate her access to sexual pleasure. An additional benefit is that the wife will eventually develop a subconscious association between sexual pleasure and her husband's voice, responding - not unlike pets - only to their master's voice.

Now I can from personal experience atest to the fact that one canbe trained to orgasm on command and like Pavlov's dogs will respond to Master/Daddy/Head of the Household/Partners voice and command with adequate training and practice.

Like the Stepford Wife, 1950's Domestic Diva that I am here is a cupcake baked by me for you with love... hoping you will forgive me for not posting my fantasy and over spending on my monthly clothing allowance, but look honey, new lingerie just for you ...

Sweets for my sweet , sugar for my honey....