Sunday, 1 May 2011

Taking Control - Planning

con·trol  (kn-trl)
tr.v. con·trolled, con·trol·ling, con·trols
1. To exercise authoritative or dominating influence over; direct.
2. To adjust to a requirement; regulate:
3. To hold in restraint; check:
 
The Oxford English Dictionary
(OED) de
free action of; to hold sway over, exercise power or authority over; to dominate,
command


What does it entail to take control over another person? Is it simply a matter of marching up to someone and saying, follow me , do this, I am now your Alpha and Omega and do as you are told?

Would it not be blissful if it were that easy? As I prepare for my slave's return , I have found myself reading the The Control Book by Peter Masters again trying to plan how to take control of my slave and remind him of his place and give him the confidence in me to let go completely.

I am revisiting my motivations for wanting to have control over him and checking that we both are still suited to each other.As within any relationship there needs to be mutual benefit and satisfaction for the power exchange to work.

The planning required to successfully take control of a slave is extensive. How to take control, how to maintain control and how to manage the relationship that it meets both our needs and wants. The mere structure of time spent together, the rules, standing orders etc... take hours of work.

To successfully take control of another there must be clear action alongside the talk. No fear or doubt should exist and motives must be clear. It is not all about pain, although for some receiving pain and being restricted is the quickest way to obtain control.


I will be writing regularly about my process of preparing for slave's visit. Currently I am busy compiling a list of desired outcomes from our 30 days... the most important one being my slaves complete submission to me and making him MINE completely.


fines control (the verb) as: To exercise restraint or direction upon the.

Boudreaux's Butt Paste - My saving grace!


If you have never heard of it before take note, if you have  do you have some in your play box medical aid kit ? The flaming fanny has been rescued and transformed by said butt paste! It is still slightly raw right on the edges, but Boudreaux's Butt Paste has truly helped the healing along.

A must add to any medical aid kit for players as it helps prevent further chafing of already raw spots on the skin and has an antiseptic proponent. However , do not use on burns!

Thank goodness for Boudreaux's Butt Paste, it changed flaming fanny into bearable and nearly healed fanny! Not just for nappy rash..... LOL

Taking Control follows later today ....

Saturday, 30 April 2011

Lingering reminders of a brushing down.

Just a quick update.... I certainly will never cross the particular line I crossed during Easter weekend. I still ache and am incredibly tender.... it is four days later and I am still very aware of my punishment and the effects thereof.

Lesson learnt , I never ever again want to feel this pain ever again,it out strips any spanking, caning or whipping I have ever experienced in my life before!

Femdom Time - Preparing for slave's visit, Rules for Slave

My blogs will be very varied in the next weeks,however I will be paying a lot of attention to various plans that need to be completed before slave arrives, so much to do so little time. I am currently developing a set of rules that will govern slaves time with me as we will be spending 30 days in a 24/7 setting.


The following are his draft rules ( some refinement required) :

1 Overall

Slave is a submissive masochist male. Slave gives his submission to Mistress on the basis that she knows and accepts this. Slave's submission to Mistress is absolute and without condition. Slave places no limits on Mistresses behaviour and will accept anything she chooses to do.

Slave will live his life with the sole aim of pleasing Mistress in everything slave does and says.

-          Slave will obey Mistress at all times; serving her to please and satisfy her needs. This is the sole reason for her acknowledgement of slave and her acceptance of slave as her slave boy.

-          When slave is not with Mistress every decision slave makes will be aimed at pleasing, satisfying and serving her even though she is not there with slave.

-          Slave is aware that each and every action of slave’s is a reflection of Mistress and slave shall ever act in a manner that would damage the good name and reputation of Mistress.

Mistress knows what is best for slave.

-          Slave trusts Mistress totally and implicitly to control and regulate every aspect of slave’s life using slaves submission to her and the absolute power she exerts over slave.

-          When slave has concerns or worries slave will always communicate them to her in a clear and direct way. Once she has considered them she will make her reply in the same way and slave will accept that reply without query or hesitation.


When slave fails in the above Mistress will punish slave.

-          Failure to comply with these rules will result in punishment. This punishment may include but is not restricted to the use of physical restraint and the infliction of pain. The choice, timing, level and duration of any punishment is entirely at Mistress’s discretion without any right of appeal or objection on the part of slave.

Spare the rod, spoil the boy!



2 Clothing and Appearance

-          In private and in the presence of others who accept our lifestyle slave shall remain naked at all times except for slave’s collar plus any additional restraints Mistress may place on slave from time to time. Slave may not wear more than this without Mistress’s express permission.

-          Slave will in public wear a symbol indicating Mistresses ownership of slave.

-          In public slave shall wear whatever clothing Mistress may select for slave which will at all times include female panties. Such clothing is to be worn in a neat and tidy manner so as to reflect well on Mistress

-          Slave shall be groomed and shaved at all times, unless Mistress has otherwise instructed. Slave is to ensure that his hands are manicured at all times and that slave’s feet are always immaculately pedicured.

Enema time, this is easy one, usually enemas are admisitered inverted!


-          Slave’s groin and anal regions :

o   must be kept smooth and hairless at all time
o   are to be washed regularly and kept scrupulously clean, weekly enemas to be administered
o   must be perfumed as Mistress instructs



3   Behaviour & Etiquette

3.1 General

-          slave must never raise his eyes above the level of Mistress’s knees without her express permission.

-          slave must never look into Mistresses eyes without her express permission.


-          Slave must obey any every instruction given by Mistress quickly and accurately to the exclusion of all other activities.

-          Slave may never refuse an instruction from Mistress and if slave fails to understand any instruction slave will seek clarification as outlined in other sections of these rules.


3.2 In Private

-          slave must remain on slaves knees at all times, crawling from place to place unless slave is  carrying out a task ordered by Mistress which makes this impossible. In this case slave will return to his knees at the earliest practical moment.

-          Slave must never offer anything to or receive any from Mistress in a standing position. Slave must always be on his knees.

-          Slave’s head must be bowed and eyes cast down to the level of Mistresses feet in the presence of Mistress unless slave is given permission to do otherwise.

-          Slave will address Mistress as Mistress or Goddess and in no other manner

-          If slave requires Mistress’s attention slave must kneel in front of her and kiss her left foot holding slaves lips to her foot until she acknowledges slaves request. If her left foot is not at ground level then slave may kiss her right. If both her feet are raised from the floor then slave must kiss the ground at her feet waiting for her to place a foot on the ground. Slave must then kiss her foot waiting for her to acknowledge slaves request.

At Mistress's feet ....where he belongs!


-          When not engaged in any other activity slave must kneel on Mistress’s left hand side, head bowed and wait without movement or sound never let slaves attention wander from Mistress until she has further use for slave.

-          Slave must acknowledge receipt of any order from Mistress by lowering slaves head further and then quickly moving to carry it out. If slave requires further information to carry it out slave must request Mistresses attention in the manner outlined above.


3.3 In the presence of others who accept our lifestyle

-          Slave’s status is automatically the lowest of all presence no matter what their status within their own relationships.

-          On arrival slave will greet each guest on his knees, eyes lowered and head bowed.

-          Slave will address all female guests as Ma’am, all male guests as Sir and all dominant women as they request.

-          Slave may not look at any female above ankle level no matter what the circumstances unless at the command of Mistress.

-          In all other ways slaves behaviour will be  as it is when we are in private and slave will acknowledge the superiority of all other present by behaving towards them as slave does his  Mistress unless slave receive instructions from  Mistress to the contrary.

3.4 In the presence of those who do not know of or accept our lifestyle

-          Slave’s behaviour shall be that of the “perfect gentleman”. Slave shall be attentive to Mistress at all times and shall not allow her to carry out any task, such as opening a door, carrying a package, that slave may be expected to carry out.

-          Slave’s demeanour will be submissive but slave will not do anything to embarrass or draw attention to slave or Mistress unless specifically instructed to do so by Mistress.

-          If slave fails to understand  Mistress’s intention slave will seek clarification in a quiet respectful manner

-          In general discussion with other slave may query Mistress but this must be done in a respectful non-challenging manner.

4.  Specific Tasks Responsibilities

-          Slave is responsible for all domestic duties when the domestic servant is not at work and on week- ends within the house and must complete without fail each of the task specified on the attached daily schedule task list within the given time frame.

-          Slave will be responsible for all the cooking and shopping. All meals to be healthy and according to the dietary rules for both Mistress and slave.

-          Slave will give Mistress a pedicure and manicure once per week.

-          Slave will wake Mistress each morning , making a cup of tea, serving it to her in bed, ensuring that both Mistress and slave training gear is ready. It is the responsibility of slave to get Mistress and slave to the gym 5 days per week.

-          Slave will shampoo Mistresses hair and blow-dry her hair according to styling guide from Mistresses hairdresser.

-          Slave will run Mistresses bath and attend to her in her bath at all times, washing her, shaving her smoothly, without nicking her ever, and applying body lotion.

-          Slave will serve as Mistress’s toilet and will consume all her bodily wastes with his mouth in such a way as to prevent mess and odour. Slave will also carry out this task for any other person as required by Mistress.


Slave with head in a toilet box, :)

-          Slave is responsible for the collection and disposal of the products of Mistress menstrual cycle. Slave will carry out this task with his mouth in accordance with the training Mistress provided.

Next blog more about control......

Friday, 29 April 2011

Royal Wedding, Recovery and planning a slave's visit!

I am a utter Royalist... I have always been one and have enjoyed watching many a Royal occasion... today was no exception. It was a very lovely understated wedding , so much less pomp and ceremony than Charles and Diana's , I personally think. Princess Catherine looked lovely and I watched the whole glorious affair in total.

Needless to say not much else got done... the quiet down time is much needed as my fanny is still tender and raw and is recovering slowly but surely... so the quiet day with numerous cups of tea and minimal movement was pure bliss.

During the latter half of the ceremony my slave arrived online and we have been continuing our discussions and planning for hie impending 30 day visit... 24/7 submission from slave for 30 days.... and  7 full days in a full isolation hood.... in various states of bondage and with a variety of deliciously cruel punishments applied and administered...... I cannot wait to have slave back.... more stun guns, more needles and many more punishments for him....extreme play... as we both like it.... with an added twist, this time I think I am going to schedule some web casts ...all welcome to watch .... more blog later and some pictures of slave last visit and some pictures of new ideas for planned punishment and use....

xxxx Scarlett

Thursday, 28 April 2011

Simply punished !

What makes one punishment stand out from another and more memorable than another? Is it the "hardness" of the strokes, the number of strokes , the implement used or the intensity of the pain inflicted during the punishment?


 
Master is the Maestro of punishment, I am a pain slut and actually enjoy a good caning and spanking, fro me the are sometimes a treat to me, so punishing me in the more traditional manner is not an actual punishment. Thus Master has refined His punishment techniques and at first glance or during the application or meting out of a punishment , the submissive or an audience may think that it is not harsh at all or harsh enough.

Our guest for my punishment session had been part of my weekend mischief and helped me along my path of self destruction ( as any good self proclaimed sadist would). Pain is his thing, in a BIG way!

Master had given me my list of items to have ready, I have intimate knowledge of all of them and thought I knew what would happen, although I was a little scared I was far to confident as I have a high threshold for pain ( and enjoy spanking, caning and slapping a lot)  and came across far to cocky!

As a submissive ( Dominant to my slave, slutty boy and foot slut) there is a profound an epiphany to be had in a well given punishment. And yesterday"s punishment was profound in it's simplicity and had a  more powerful and lasting physical impact than anticipated.

It was a deceivingly simple low key punishment and I bore it with as much elegance and style as one can whilst being on display in that manner and doing the acts that are designed to be degrading and humiliating as these were ( since I was to be reminded of my place and to whom I belong, MASTER).

As the punishment was being administered our guest encouraged Master to add a spanking or caning into the mix as he was of the opinion my punishment was not severe enough to befit my crime. Master calmly announced that since I had been spanked so much the weekend I was inure to the impact of a spanking or caning.

Master had his very calm smiling voice on and said no , the punishment would surely remind his naughty brat what happens when she gets led astray by her urges and hormones....


The brushing down continued for about 15 minutes at a good pace, added to that afterwards the Tabasco and the Icy Blue and a good three hours sitting around naked with the treatment curing and I was in agony ( I still am in agony! ) and the agony just increased with every minute in the day. By last night my fanny was so swollen and raw that every movement caused me to cringe. And the simplest acts such as a bath or a pee nearly had me in tears, constantly reminding of my lesson.

I spent the whole day yesterday trying to sooth the pain,my fanny truly was on fire. It was boiling hot and it was leaking like a tap adding to the agony as raw delicate skin should be kept dry not wet and chafing with every move. As I sit here I can fully understand why babies howl as they do when they have nappy rash as I would like to howl with them!

I woke this morning to a less fiery fanny, now at a slow simmer or medium boil, but a day wearing jeans sans panties quickly has me back to full scale agony! A long chat with Master and him issuing the instruction to write about the lasting impact of a seemingly innocent punishment .

Why am I so stupid as to even do things like this, I my Master, he always punishes me with such simple elegance that leaves lasting lasting marks on my soul and in the aftermath of a punishment ( yesterday was a punishment, spanking and caning is foreplay for us) leaves me keenly aware of his touch and his undeniable ownership of me.

So when next confronted with a simple punishment do not be deceived! If it has been crafted or administered by Master, know it will be painful and deeply effective!

I adore my Master, he has such elegance and the most deliciously wicked mind. I will not stray in that manner ever again. oh yes I forgot to mention, I have been loaned out on an indefinite basis to our guest. When Master does not need me I am to be available virtually and in real life to our guest.

Just a last slap ....

Within simplicity lies lasting impact!

Flaming Fanny

Herewith a picture of a very well punished fanny. I will later today at about 5 pm SA time be writing another blog about my punishment. Master has instructed me to expound on the effects of yesterdays punishment. It may sound like a mild mediocre punishment, but the impact and effect was profound.

I may not have a flaming fanny today,it has calmed down to a mild boil and it aches a little less, yet I am constantly reminded of my lesson in more than one way with every move I make and every action I take.

Brushed down hard. Raw and tender!
Master certainly made an impact yesterday, I shall not forget this lesson any time soon!